nodejs sequelize connect to a remote mySQL database always give ETIMEDOUT - mysql

Question

i need your help regarding connecting sequelize to a remote mySQL database
sequelize connects fine when i set host attribute to 'localhost' like this:
new Sequelize('billsmanager', 'root', '12345', {
host: `localhost`,
dialect: 'mysql',
define: {
timestamps: false
},
pool: {
max: 25,
min: 0,
idle: 10000
},
})
then i've tried to put my local IP address at home instead of 'localhost' and ETIMEDOUT comes
i tried freeinfinity hosting site it gives ETIMEDOUT
my office server it gives ETIMEDOUT
even i tried my brother's home server and it gives me ETIMEDOUT
and even my network at home it gives ETIMEDOUT
someone suggested here to add inbound rule in firewall for port 3306 and it doesn't work
and commenting bind-address in my.ini didn't work too
i'm using XAMPP
i don't know really why this happens
can you help me?
thanks so much in advance,i really need this to work

Answer 1

i've solved it at last with very silly solution
i added a connect timeout to 100Sec and it worked and connected after like 12Sec
i wrote the initialization like this:
sequelizer: new Sequelize('billsmanager', 'root', '12345', {
host: `192.168.1.2`,
dialect: 'mysql',
dialectOptions: {
connectTimeout:100000
},
define: {
timestamps: false
},
pool: {
max: 25,
min: 0,
idle: 10000
},
}),
thanks