MySQL multiple SubQueries on same table - mysql

Question

I got a table votes that indicates me if a user voted for a specific movie. It also shows me how many movies a user has voted for.
id_film | id_user | voting
----------------------------
1 | 1 | 7
1 | 33 | 5
3 | 1 | 9
4 | 7 | 7
4 | 2 | 8
4 | 1 | 6
6 | 1 | 6
... | ... | ...
I want to get a list of id_film's which are related to id_user's in this way:
Get all id_film's from a specific id_user like
SELECT id_film FROM votes WHERE id_user = 1
Grab every id_user which is related
SELECT DISTINCT v.user FROM votes v WHERE id_film IN ( id_film's )
Then SELECT id_film's FROM votes v WHERE user IN ( "user list from previous query" ) except id_film's from first query.
This was my first attempt:
SELECT id_film, film.title, film.originaltitle, COUNT(*)
FROM votes v
INNER JOIN film ON v.id_film = film.id
WHERE user IN
(
SELECT DISTINCT v.user
FROM votes v
WHERE id_film IN
(
SELECT id_film
FROM votes v
WHERE user = 1
)
)
AND
id_film NOT IN
(
SELECT id_film
FROM votes v
WHERE user = 1
)
GROUP BY id_film
It doesn't work. MySQL took too long for a result and I restarted XAMPP.
So I tried another SELECT, this time with JOINS:
SELECT DISTINCT v.id_film AS vFilm, v1.user AS v1User, v2.id_film AS v2Film
FROM votes v
LEFT OUTER JOIN votes v1 ON v1.id_film = v.id_film
LEFT OUTER JOIN votes v2 ON v1.user = v2.user
WHERE v.user = 1
AND v1.user != 1
AND v2.id_film NOT
IN
(
SELECT id_film
FROM votes
WHERE user = 1
)
GROUP BY v2.id_film
Also doesn't work, but when I tried it without the NOT IN condition in the end it works! (It took appr. 13 sec.) :-(
Here is the working query.
SELECT DISTINCT v2.id_film AS v2Film
FROM votes v
LEFT OUTER JOIN votes v1 ON v1.id_film = v.id_film
LEFT OUTER JOIN votes v2 ON v1.user = v2.user
WHERE v.user = 1
AND v1.user != 1
With Output
v2Film
---------
1
13
14
58
4
...
But this query doesn't except id_film's from first query.
Because I know that user 1 already voted for id_film 1.
So, am I totally wrong with my logic or is my code too complex for this?